One of the most difficult aspects of having children with someone you aren’t in a relationship with any longer is that you still have to work with each other to raise the children. Some people are fortunate enough to have an ex that they can work with, but not everyone has that luxury.
If you’re stuck with an ex who wants to battle with you at every turn, you have to learn how to handle contentious situations. These tips may be beneficial for you, but you have to carefully consider how they apply to your circumstances.
Focus on the children
The most important thing to remember is that your kids come first. Even if your ex is difficult, your responses should be guided by what’s best for the children. That means avoiding arguments in front of them, not using them to send messages and not letting your frustrations spill into their lives.
Think of your communication as a business transaction. Keep it brief, respectful and child-focused. Document conversations when needed, and if verbal discussions escalate easily, consider switching to written communication through text or a co-parenting app.
Set the parenting plan
A well-crafted parenting plan is a roadmap to how the parenting relationship should work. An ideal parenting plan should outline everything from the parenting time schedule, who will make decisions for the children and communication standards. The more detailed this plan, the less that’s left to chance.
The parenting plan must reflect the best interests of your children in a way that’s legally enforceable. It may be best to work with someone who can assist you in getting everything together in an appropriate manner.